How to Be a Gentleman By Not Being a Gentleman

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Traditionally, men are taught by their elders how to be a gentleman. This brings to mind various nostalgic early 20th century ideas of opening doors, practicing some form of chivalry, and being a polite, well-rounded man. There are many ways that “being a gentleman” is an adage that bothers me. It implies automatically that men […]

Are You An Alpha Male or Just An Insecure Dude?

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Alpha male is a popular buzzword these days (I even wrote a book dissecting the topic). However, let’s be clear that alpha behavior has little in common with overly-macho, aggressive or insecure attitudes. The very concept of “alpha” is also shaky. In social situations, we can observe men with high-levels of social prowess and charisma. Comparably, […]

French Feminism vs American Feminism

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Editor’s Note: On Developed Man, I’ve tried to focus on self-development and avoid the fiery debate across the Manosphere and men’s rights sites that point the finger at “feminism” as being responsible for men’s problems. However, undeniably gender issues do affect men’s lives, and how women view their other-half greatly influences our romantic prospects. A […]

Huge Mistakes From Yesteryear’s PUA Movement

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I don’t think anybody likes the term “PUA” (pickup artist) anymore because it’s ridiculous. But, I still see guys using PUA principles in an effort to become better men or cure long romantic dry spells. Some of these behaviors still crop up even if the “PUA” culture is mostly on the way out. In this […]

The Demonstration of Higher Value – A New Guide

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Here’s an acronym you may have heard before: a “DHV”, or a demonstration of higher value. On the topic of seduction, this was (and continues to be) a big deal. It’s the idea of implanting certain “spikes” into your conversation to show your high-quality characteristics without directly stating them—which would be bragging. Most famously, a […]

Sexual Virtues: Apathy

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Think about the people you know who are very successful with women, and I’ll bet they all have at least one trait in common: they are indifferent and otherwise unaffected by the women they meet. In addition, they are not emotionally invested in situations or outcomes of most varieties. These are all traits of apathy, […]

Do Looks Matter? The Fourth Factor

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Do looks matter? Spoiler: Yes, looks do matter. A lot. On both sides of the gender spectrum. This is a popular topic of debate. Some people in the pickup artist / dating coach world have sold the idea that looks don’t really matter. The reason is because this a great way to sell the idea […]

How to be Honest and Authentic to Enhance Your Success

Maybe it’s because of a late-stage quarter-life crisis, but as I get older I find myself becoming more honest about the shit that’s wrong with my life. I’ve also discovered the therapeutic nature of coming clean about these faults, and how it seems to enhance my social confidence on a number of levels. A lack […]

A Look at Nice Guys Who Are Really Assholes

A lot has been written about “nice guys”—from the famous Robert Glover book “No More Mr. Nice Guy” to countless lectures by top relationship coaches like David Wygant, David DeAngelo and plenty of others. The consensus is that “nice guys” are not really so nice at all and that they tend to have manipulative tendencies. […]

The Signs She’s Interested in You – The Ultimate Guide

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There is a clear definition of failing at “game”, or not living up to the proper standards of a man. It does not involve getting laid X number of times, having the most beautiful girlfriend in your city, or other unattainable, outcome-dependent goals. Failure in this sense is allowing opportunities to pass you by; or […]

A Guy’s Guide to Handling Conflict

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In my life I’ve noticed two extremes: men who compulsively avoid conflict, and those who seem to seek it out. Obviously, neither strategy is very good. For this article, I’d like to talk about the types of conflict we encounter in our day-to-day lives, and how deal with each situation. This way, you’ll be better […]

The Real Reasons for Being Rejected by a Girl

To be rejected by a girl is not a fun experience. Nobody likes rejection, because nobody wants to be reminded, directly or indirectly, of inferiority. This is the one human element that seems to cause the most damage, enough so that children rejected from an early age by peers or parents often grow up to […]

A Major Sticking Point: Male Insecurity

The sooner you can free yourself from the chains of male insecurity, the sooner you can begin to enjoy life without the nagging bondage that accompanies almost every action performed by an insecure man. This is the first article of the Developed Man project, and it’s the first important topic that every man should try […]