You Attract the Energy You Give Out (Avoiding Alimony Hustlers)

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Meeting other humans is a complex subject. One of the greatest mistakes men make is being unaware of their energy (which is another way of saying personality, mood, desires, and ambitions we put out to the world.) What occurs is that like-minds, obviously, attract.

Spiritual Philosophy and Dating – Why it Matters (Bear With Me)

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For years, I’ve wondered why my love life is great in many foreign countries I’ve lived in (and some U.S. cities), to where one night out can result in a full schedule of dates for the month, and inevitably a girlfriend (or two, or three). But at home in sunny LA my love life is […]

5 Ways to Stay Young and Keep Your Vitality

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Getting old is optional. It’s not so much about our bodies getting a little more wrinkly, as it is our mindsets change; sometimes for the worst. Guys having middle-age crises annoy me. It’s like they release they’ve lost their youth / vitality, and they rapidly try to make up for it in a panic, instead […]

Is the No Fap Movement Something to Try? An Objective Analysis

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By now, you’ve probably heard of the “No Fap” movement, which started on Reddit and has become a challenge for young men everywhere to abstain from masturbation. The movement has a big mix of pros and cons. There are some definite advantages to “No Fap” that I’ll outline. But, there’s also some problems with the […]

The Terrible Temptation of Bragging

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First of all, I have no idea who this is a picture of. He was on the Wikimedia creative commons page for the keyword “arrogant” and he definitely looks the part. However, I have to offer my utmost apologies to whoever this guy is who I just made into the personification of a “bragger”. One […]

6 High Quality Behaviors That Men Must Try to Obtain

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Let’s face it, the world is kind of a shitty place sometimes. And, the reason is largely because of the people who inhabit it. Fortunately, there’s good news: a few personality changes and philosophical reconsiderations can create a new chapter for any man; immediately creating a brighter future for everybody. These behaviors could mean, for […]

The Seven Deadly Limiting Beliefs

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The limiting belief is a term that has entered common vernacular. It is a belief that restricts one’s spirit and persists regardless of whether any evidence exists to support it. They are often creations of the negative subconscious, or they are the reinforced behaviors of a society with broken values. Nonetheless, we all have limiting […]

Getting Back into the Game: Dating Tips for Men

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I’m convinced “game” is good for men. When people spend long hiatuses, whether from dry spells due to a work schedule, or a failed relationship that leaves one feeling depressed and unmotivated, then guys experience a lot of bad effects. They become less youthful, less invigorated, and their libido is often wasted on pornography or […]

The Demonstration of Higher Value – A New Guide

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Here’s an acronym you may have heard before: a “DHV”, or a demonstration of higher value. On the topic of seduction, this was (and continues to be) a big deal. It’s the idea of implanting certain “spikes” into your conversation to show your high-quality characteristics without directly stating them—which would be bragging. Most famously, a […]

Sexual Virtues: Apathy

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Think about the people you know who are very successful with women, and I’ll bet they all have at least one trait in common: they are indifferent and otherwise unaffected by the women they meet. In addition, they are not emotionally invested in situations or outcomes of most varieties. These are all traits of apathy, […]

Do Looks Matter? The Fourth Factor

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Do looks matter? Spoiler: Yes, looks do matter. A lot. On both sides of the gender spectrum. This is a popular topic of debate. Some people in the pickup artist / dating coach world have sold the idea that looks don’t really matter. The reason is because this a great way to sell the idea […]

How to be Honest and Authentic to Enhance Your Success

Maybe it’s because of a late-stage quarter-life crisis, but as I get older I find myself becoming more honest about the shit that’s wrong with my life. I’ve also discovered the therapeutic nature of coming clean about these faults, and how it seems to enhance my social confidence on a number of levels. A lack […]

A Look at Nice Guys Who Are Really Assholes

A lot has been written about “nice guys”—from the famous Robert Glover book “No More Mr. Nice Guy” to countless lectures by top relationship coaches like David Wygant, David DeAngelo and plenty of others. The consensus is that “nice guys” are not really so nice at all and that they tend to have manipulative tendencies. […]

The Challenge of Modern Dating Coaches (Response to Jezebel)

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Early last year I started to explore the idea of being a dating coach and a life-coach as a profession versus just a hobby. It’s extremely rewarding, because I see it as helping people with self-empowerment. I got into this stuff back when I was a college sophomore and it had a great positive effect […]

7 Bullshit Ideas That Hold Men Back

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Uncertainty is the thing that separates an effective lifestyle from one of trepidation and inaction. Each gender has its own series of limiting beliefs, and certainly both men and women share a lot of the same issues. However, through the vantage point of men’s interests, there are some reoccurring themes I notice among guys who […]